By: Abby

In reply to Matt Wallaert.

You’re right but probably not in the way that you’re hoping. I think that not only that this won’t help, but that her explanation of how it fits into rape culture is incredibly clear. Also, the author never suggests that men are incapable of being helpful- she actually gives examples of programs based around male advocacy in the article. If you are an ally or an advocate (and also, look up the word ally because your definition is actually that of a sympathizer), you have to realize that you have to listen to the people you are trying to help and help those people. Instead, you are complaining like a child, saying “isn’t it enough that i claim to care? isn’t that what being an ally is about? making me feel good? pretending that i did a good job or these men did a good job even when pretending actually makes things worse? because if you pretend I’m good at it, I’ll keep pretending that I’m an ally/advocate, and that’s what really matters.”
Really, I’m sure just you being here to disagree with us about the utility of a product meant to help people that aren’t you is great. We should be so grateful to you and the creators of this mostly useless product. this is a huge advancement. Because now the people perpetuating rape culture aren’t our enemies or oppressors, they’re our advocates. *grins*