By: Noah

In reply to Lili.

Unfortunately, that is a very common thing – for the person who crossed the boundaries to present themselves as the victim and the person whose boundaries were crossed to apologize and agreeing to it being a misunderstanding or that both sides were responsible.
For the person whose boundaries were crossed, it often feels safer to agree to this narrative of a misunderstanding or that they were responsible, too, because the backlash they receive from the other person (who crossed their boundaries) is just so strong and painful. In addition, they have often started from a position in which “No” is hard, people-pleasing necessary, and fawning is crucial.

I hate this dynamic and I wish there was a therapist in this show to intervene in so many situations. But that defeats the purpose of reality TV that is designed for drama and people yelling at each other.