By: Winterone

I have a couple of extra thoughts for the submitter writing about getting married:
1) I know it feels like you’re being forced into something, but it’s still a choice you’re making and there is a tremendous amount of joy in that choice. It’s your own little act of rebellion, your own commitment to your partner despite all odds, your way of planning for an inhospitable future. I believe looking for that joy might help ease the disappointment.
2) TBS, and I’m not from the US so it might work differently there, I think spousal visa requirements have nothing to do with being married in the destination country and everything to do with having legitimate marriage papers from A country. Like, as long as you’re married (when you want to be) that should be the same as being married in the US? Unless you think it’s more likely that visa requirements would change, which—fair.