By: Pallas

Hrrk.... Oh man. This was painful to read. LW, you are FINE and your taste is FINE and I also run without music, I can't run with music and I salute you! And who the fuck cares!!! I used to make such judgy comments too in my last relationship (about the dumbest shit! Because it is always dumb to say shit like this to your partner) and it was because I was a jerk who felt super insecure in the relationship. Subconsciously, I wanted to put my partner down. This behaviour is completely inexcusable. Like yeah let's not demonize your girlfriend, like I said, I used to do the same thing myself, but I was 100% in the wrong. She is putting you down. Please stand up for yourself and set a boundary. If it doesn't feel safe to put down a boundary about this, maybe it is worth considering why you are in a relationship where you are feeling so emotionally unsafe that you can't set a boundary like that? As the person who made my ex feel that unsafe, all I wanted was for her to tell me to stop and get angry at me. I didn't want her to accept that I was a jerk! The whole dynamic sucked! You deserve better LW!!!! Do not accept this! "Teasing" is only fun and flirty if both people are into it. Otherwise it's just saying mean things to your partner. It is understandable that you didn't say anything before and it is completely okay to bring it up now. I am cheering you on as a fellow person who doesn't really care about music and mostly listens to the same 5 albums over and over again in a row. YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM!!!!