By: Alder Crain

I can imagine that having hurt feelings about not prioritizing a music taste past the mid-2000s is generally not a good feeling to have. And yet it is a rather mundane insecurity regarding the field of romantic relationships.

What concerns me is that the question asker is prioritizing asking strangers (more or less) online about a relatively benign situation of typical unpleasant feelings that arise in relationships than discuss these feelings with their partner. (God forbid this question be pitched to Reddit.)

To me this suggests that the question asker is either a highly avoidant person, an insecure person, or someone intimidated by their partner. Maybe all 3!

And while I can’t know for sure if the question asker’s partner is the problem or not, I am feeling increasingly wary of the question asker.

No one is asking for this tip, but here it is.

Pro tip: if you can’t have honest conversations about your entire range of emotions present on your half of a romantic relationship, perhaps you should not be in this relationship.

Because discussing the good the bad and the ugly that you feel is your responsibility.
Expecting partners to be your mind reader is not reasonable. Communicate, even when it is difficult.

The intent of the post doesn’t even seem to be seeking advice. It’s seeking validation for the sore feelings.

Talk to your partner. Share your feelings with them. Stop pulling away from them when you feel bad and reaching for the internet to ice the inflammation.

The Internet isn’t going to solve your problem here.

I can’t talk to your partner for you.

Your friends shouldn’t have that responsibility either.

Not your mom or your dad.

You have to.