By: Araguaney R. Da Silva

In reply to Andy.

Thank you, Andy! I also I’m in complete agreement with you. I think pulling out last minute would ideally never happen, and I also think that given the choice some of us would prefer have friends pull out last minute than provide care reluctantly / out of obligation. That kind of care doesn’t feel good or like care at all, to me.

Your comment makes me think of another option, though: perhaps giving people a timeline would be helpful. Like, I communicated and named that people on my care team could pull out literally up to the second we boarded the plane (I had to travel for my surgery) but maybe you draw the line at a week before surgery, and maybe others draw it earlier. Maybe adding that to the pre-surgery check-ins would help.