By: Elizabeth

In reply to Elizabeth. (Hi,Elizabeth -- it's me, Elizabeth!) I'm curious if you identify as kinky, and whereabouts in the kink universe you reside, given your response to the sentence of Sinclair's that you quote here. I'm a switch, and the submissive portion of my kinky little heart found the exact quote that sounded misogynistic to you to be incredibly hot. I really enjoy it when my Domme lets herself be entirely selfish and just uses me for her pleasure. I wouldn't feel that way about some random person trying the same thing -- because I very carefully chose her as the person I give that power to because of who she is as an individual and how she makes me feel, and because I know she values me as an individual and values the submission I offer her (she's enjoying controlling *me*, and fucking with my head in ways that we both enjoy -- I don't feel at all interchangeable or disposable to her). Sinclair didn't say "women/femmes should be submissive" or "all women should serve me" or even "this woman should serve me because she's a woman/femme/sub". Comments like that would be entitled and misogynistic, definitely. But to me the comment just sounds... dominant. And it sounded very personal -- not about wanting or expecting to be able to tell women in general what to do, but wanting to tell this very specific and much-desired woman what to do (and it sounds to me as if, once Sinclair realized being dominated wasn't what that specific woman wanted to do, they backed off and did a lot of reflection. Which sounds like the opposite of misogyny to me.).