By: Beverley Rabbitts

In addition to the wise, comprehensive AutoStraddle answer, and the many good reader comments, I want to also let you know that if this issue (well, multiple issues at play in one scenario) leads you to end the relationship, that it's ok. You're *allowed* to have any reasons, even superficial, subjective, or selfish reasons, to end a relationship that is not working for you. There's no judge and jury measuring the validity of your feelings. I used to compromise, forgive, and shrink my needs until the point of a joyless existence that it turned out nobody wanted, so I've been taking a different approach lately and am much happier. So I just wanted to make sure you know you have permission, and that you don't need to suffer in silence if that's what it feels like. Sometimes just being aware of your available choices can make things feel more light.