By: Noodlesforever

I'd love to see the author's response to this, but I have a take! This part was really interesting to me because I have a lot of conversations with my transmasc partner about how we each relate to "expected" genderized roles. It's important for us because sometimes we unconsciously expect certain behavior from one another or from ourselves even though neither of us are particularly interested in conforming to our genders. Sometimes my partner worries that they will enact some negative masculine stereotype that they've been subjected to in the past and it has a chilling effect on our dynamic. It's possible to acknowledge the role gender expectations have without accepting them unconsciously (and accepting the ones you like or whatever). Neither of us seem to be those people, but there are a lot of femmes who for whom their labor is colored by their femininity. There was an discussion about that here a couple years ago. I would be interested in other peoples' takes on that.